On Friday just passed, I sat with a group of mummies and we lamented slightly at the enormous task we have on our hands. The responsibility of parenthood weighed heavy on our hearts as we discussed just how easy it is to inadvertently affect our children in a negative way. Be it snapping too quickly, applying too much pressure or not being present enough. How impossible it seems to strike a balance between encouraging them to reach their full potential and teaching that it’s ok to fail.
Quite honestly I have no insights for you on the finer details, I wish I did! But it brought me back to my fundamental parenting principle. Whether you believe or not you cannot dispute God really hit the nail on the head here. Jesus has just stepped into the public eye to begin his ministry and just as he’s being baptised God declares, loud and booming for all to hear;
‘This is my Son, whom I love; with him I am well pleased.’
Matthew 3:17 NIV
As Jesus was on the cusp of diving headfirst into the biggest, scariest adventure of his life how truly wonderful for his father to affirm him in this way. Jesus would have needed that right then, to know he was unconditionally loved to know he brought his father immense joy, that he was ENOUGH. And that his father wanted everyone to know it.
I’ve written before about how immensely important it is for our children to know they are loved, read Little One, You are Loved here. But this week I’ve been mulling over the ‘pleased’ part. How do I show Florence I am pleased with her? that I think she’s great? that she brings me so much joy? It’s been a weekend full of laughter, of erupting into applause when she sings ‘Let it Go’ of cuddles and singing her praises. Of giving her my FULL attention as she colours or does a puzzle. It takes a lot of intention, but if we invest whole heartedly now our little ones with reap the harvest forever.
It’s my prayer that Florence will grow up to know, not only that she is totally and unconditionally loved but that she will have the confidence and strength of self to know she is a wonderful person, with whom her parents are ‘well pleased’.