We’ve all been there, that moment of sheer panic as their chubby little chops stare up at you, eyes wide with expectation. ‘Blahblahblahblahblah…ya?!’ You repeat the word to yourself, then again as a question, ‘Blahblahblahblahblah?’ to buy yourself time as you mentally scan every know word in the English language for a match. No match, they’ve repeated themselves twice now, each time getting a little louder. The pressure is on as you frantically search the room for a clue. ‘BLAHBLAHBLAHBLAHBLAH!!!’ Uh oh…times up. Melt down. The kind that starts with that guttural nagging whine that grates on your very being and makes you passive aggressively clock watch until Daddy gets home.
Can you tell I have a headache?!
These days of frustration are hard for everyone. We big ones struggle, stress and endure the melt downs whilst the little ones get increasingly frustrated at not being understood. I do so wish I had fabulous advice to improve the situation but alas, it’s one of those things that is part and parcel of procreating. All we can do is take a deep breath (and a couple of paracetamol) and practise the art of patience.
Patience has felt in short supply recently but I’ve come to realise I’ve been thinking of it all wrong. Something happens and depending on it’s severity my quota of patience can either handle it or not, I have not allowed my patience to grow. It’s important to ‘exercise’ our patience, with every deep breath, counting to 10 or pausing to think, allows patience to expand to fit the situation. It’s taken a good few days of flying off the handle but now I can see the stage we are in I can prepare myself to respond rather than react next time. This by no means changes the situation at hand, little ones will still be frustrated but hopefully, as patience grows, we parents will be less so!
If all else fails, at the end of the day be sure to marvel at how much your little one is learning and growing, keep track of all the new words and phrases they are developing. I appeared all dressed up for a wedding last weekend, Florence took one look and gasped ‘Mummy! You soo cute!’. They’ve got a lot going on in those precious noggins and as always remember, it’s just a phase.
-Fifi & Florence x